Optimist– a disposition or tendency to look on the more favorable side of events or conditions and to expect the most favorable outcome.
Laymen’s term: Perpetually hopeful.
Pessimist– a person who habitually sees or anticipates the worst or is disposed to be gloomy.
Laymen’s term: Waiting for the bubble to burst.
Realist-interest in or concern for the actual or real, as distinguished from the abstract, speculative, etc. 2. the tendency to view or represent things as they really are.
Laymen’s term: Living in the “here and now”.
Idealism-the cherishing or pursuit of high or noble principles, purposes, goals, etc.
Laymen’s term: Riding on the high horse.
My life views tend to be all over the place. If you ask my boyfriend I’m a pessimist or a “downer”. But if you ask me, I’m a realist. I look at situations and life events as they are, right in front me. No smoke and mirrors, no fancy make-up and push-up bras. No grandiose life plans or exotic vacations in far off lands. Sure one can hope, plan and dream for those things but I’ve never been the type.
I like instant gratification. I like to do thing’s that am able to do right now. Want a Starbucks at 9pm at night? You betcha. Want to go to the kid’s performances this weekend? Count me in! Want to do themed Halloween Costumes? It’s in the bag!
Want to buy a house in 2 year’s? I don’t know. Want to go to Disneyland next spring? I’d love to, but I can’t say for sure. Want to buy a new car next tax season? Naw, I like my minivan.
Have a few theories as to why I think this way. It’s the blame game. If I say yes to the future plans and they fail, then I failed. If I plan on Disneyland, then some cosmic collide of stars and planets will happen, hell will actually send the high water stopping my minivan from trekking us to Disneyland just to prove I’m powerless against the all mighty Murphy’s law. I will have numerous kids crying, hating me and ruining their childhoods if I don’t come through with plans I’ve made.
What’s that say about me? How will I handle such disastrous endeavors? Will I be able to cope with the chaos of emotions?
Sure, I have dreams and aspirations. I would love to walk the streets of Rome, dine at a bistro, sip coffee in the early morning watching the sun come up over the Tuscan Valley’s of Italy. I would love to decorate my own lawn with Halloween and Christmas decorations on land I purchased. I’d love to sit in the driver’s seat of a car I personally picked out that no one else’s butt has been in. I’d love to have a fairytale wedding with all of my closest friends and family on a wonderful fall evening.
But I know what I’m capable of. I know where my limits are. I know my budget. I know where my place is. So that is why I plan for my life as I live it. I plan and do as I see fit for each day. I try not to waste a single minute. That is why I sometimes never sit down until the day is done and my family is sleeping peacefully in their beds. I’m not perfect, I make mistakes and I learn from them. I’ve made bad decisions and I’m made some kick-ass one’s too, but my future is mine. My life is spent with my family and friends.
I’ve learned from my books, lots of people and many movies. You have to make life what you wanted it to be. You could spend all day planning for your future as each day slips by you. Or you could hope for the future and enjoy today. I think I’ll live for today, learn from yesterday and prepare for tomorrow, and forget about all the rest.