My Emotional Song for this post.
Without getting into all the dramatics of this past week, I want to share my thoughts with you. Needless to say I’ve learned quite a bit about myself, my job, and my fellow co-workers. I got a real dose of reality as well.
I work in a male predominate work environment. Most of our customers are men doing men’s work and in this field of work it tends to have old fashion values. But for whatever reason, my dear boss, went out on a limb for my single mom self and gave me a job based on a “hunch” and respect for a woman trying to better herself; and knowing nothing about the field I would be working for.
Flash forward to 7 year’s later. I’m well known in the company, I’ve earned my place, I love(ed) my co-workers and I’ve learned that I actually know some shit about stuff. But what I also realized is, I’m female. I have children that I must set a good example for. I also have a loving and supportive husband. I have many co-workers who “got my back”. I also have a boss, who I see as a father figure to me and is loyal to me.
So I sit here at 3:04 A.M., with tears in my eyes and a heavy heart. I have many who have defended my honor and stuck their necks out for me. I hold the power of decision right now and I don’t know what to do with it.
Morally, when someone apologizes and it’s sincere you accept it, forgive them and move forward. But how many times do you accept it. How many times do you forgive them. How many times do you move forward only to realize your forward motion is in a circle? You always accept their apology. We can reference the Bible which say’s you forgive them a thousand times plus infinity (I’m paraphrasing here). But I was in an emotionally abusive marriage. I know this cycle very well.
I’ve worked very hard to get where I’m at. I’m not asking for much; just respect. But in light of some new News on the work front, I believe my hand just got a little trickier. Just because I’m a girl/woman doesn’t mean you can discriminate against me. Just because I’m juggling my family and a job/career doesn’t mean that you can hate on me to my friends/co-workers. I’m sorry if my life affects your ability to leave work early. I’m sorry if a woman’s college classes makes it more time consuming for you to write up and work out a work schedule for your employees.
Just because your a boy/man doesn’t mean your brain worker’s harder, faster, stronger than mine. Just because you have a penis, doesn’t give you the right to try and put me in my “place”. I’m sorry that I intimidate you and you feel inferior to me because I use logical math or deductive reasoning at the same time or that you feel I’m taking the easy road.
So I’m going to ask my readers, for advice. If you were given the option to “sit on it for the weekend and think about it, then we’ll talk about it on Monday,” would you go forward with your complaint about confrontational and aggressive bosses harassing you and a manager making sexist and discriminating remarks about you to your fellow co-workers?
I know it seems like a stupid question, but I’m a nice person. I don’t want to cause any harm and I certainly hate confrontation. I just want to be given the same respect as everyone else.